Updated: Jun 6
Shake off the Survival Fears & Anxieties of Winter (and a long cold spring) & Revitalize your Love energy through applying the Wisdom of the Ancients
Spring is traditionally a time of new beginnings, fresh energy, love, romance & fertility. For thousands of years before industrialization, surviving the winter to see the signs of spring meant the renewed opportunity to continue living.
Through the ages, this inspired joy and celebration; the ritual shaking off of the survival trauma of winter, and infusing of fresh hopeful energy into the new cycle as seeds were planted and romance encouraged.
Though many of us feel this infusion of the fresh energy of Spring and seek to unite with it, the influences of today’s society have many of us experiencing high levels of survival stress year round, and even more so now, having lived through the last few years of so much social and economic upheaval; what some experts are calling a collective trauma.
Studies show that ongoing traumatic stress can have a weathering effect on our nervous system and can seriously impact our relationships, health, and wellbeing.
Impacts of Stress on Relationship
While we all continue to adapt as best we can, for many of us, the influence of compounding stress in our lives, has had some “snowball effects” and for many others, there is a sense of that weathering, wearing down of the nervous system that can impact personal & relational resilience.
When we’re worn down in this way, common relationship difficulties that might normally feel repairable can feel insurmountable. In fact, because stress and trauma are connected to the activation of our fight, flight, or freeze response, at these times we are seeing through the distorted lens of fear.
In these activated states, with multiple compounding stress factors, along with relationship distress, it can sometimes feel like our lives are crumbling. When our senses and relationships are being rocked by reactivity, the cycling pain of trauma-based defense patterns can be triggered - and this is all felt through our nervous system, registering as life or death situations - safety or danger.
Since our need for connection is deeply woven with our drive to survive, a disconnect in close relationships signals danger to the nervous system.
When our nervous system registers danger, our biological systems mobilize to deal with that danger and the frontal cortex, the part of our brain that enables us to be in relation and connection, as well as problem solve and be creative, begins disengage.
Its easy to get caught in the sticky cycle of feeling contracted and less connective because of stress (a fear state of distrust), then experiencing a relationship situation from that state (seeing through the lens of danger & fear), feeling and or behaving in a reactive way that leads to disconnect, and that disconnect adding to a sense of destabilization, stress, danger, and more fear, thus feeling less capacity to handle life’s inevitable challenges.
Yet in the context of feeling the weight of ancestral and global intergenerational traumas, the chasm of polarization, “rightness vs. wrongness,” and survival stress of social and economic instability, the thing we need most is to feel that there is emotional space for us
in our relationships and that there are people, circles within circles of people that we can feel a sense of safety, flow, and commonality with.
For the sake of our personal fulfillment and for humanity, we need to shift toward Love and Connection.
So, what can we do to shift? How do we create Relationship Repair & Revitalization when the amount of stressors has been on the rise over many months of experiencing a collective crisis and the body’s reaction of mobilizing for danger instead of connection may have become a bit sticky, even turning into a pattern of contraction that can be hard to shake off?
The Healing Wisdom of Ancient Traditions
Our Ancient ancestors around the world Celebrated the return of the Light of the Sun in
the Springtime because it literally meant that they had survived the hardships of Winter. The growing light and warmth of the Sun, Spring rains, new plant growth, and the birth of animals, along with their mother’s milk meant that survival for another cycle became more likely.
There’s so much we can learn from this “right off the bat” that coincides with current science.
First, tuning with Nature, spending time with-in and communing with Nature allows us to receive the blessings of our co-evolution with that which sustains life: like sunlight, water, and
trees, for example. They all have properties that are proven to sooth, nourish, and bring healing to our body’s systems on multiple levels, including boosting moods.
Numerous scientific studies have shown that time in nature decreases cortisol (stress hormone) levels, rumination, and depression, as well as lowering blood pressure and increasing anti-cancer and immune activity in the body.