Updated: Jan 21
Pain & Shame Live Underneath Addiction
Addiction is desperation attempting to escape pain.
Trauma is the hidden cause of addictions. A traumatic event happens, causing pain. When that pain is not seen or heard by caring others, it turns to shame. IE: I'm not worthy to be heard. This leads to a strong belief that is carried on through one's life until the we engage in the healing process.
Subconscious beliefs like I’m not good enough or not worthy of Love get formed. We see (perceive) through the eyes of our wounds and the cycle of pain and addiction continues.
“At the core of addiction is a deep sense of shame about the self. Often the shame extends to the whole family Blame is rooted in shame. Blame is not only ineffective it's incorrect and focuses on shame. Nobody chooses to be an addict.” - Gabor Mate
Trauma causes disconnection from ourselves and others.
In addiction, using is the way we stay disconnected from the pain & shame inside ourselves.
Social “masks” are a way we hide our shame from others.
Connection is the Key to Healing
Agenda-free attention: We reach others
when we listen without blame or judgment or agenda. This compassionate attention is key to healing - both directed inward and out toward others.
Through connection in counseling - we can support you to connect with yourself compassionately and heal the underlying wounds of addiction.
The group connection & dynamics in our Support Circles, Relationship Courses, & Transformative Arts Events are extremely beneficial for therapeutic & learning
Our recovery offerings are as follows:
Wellbriety Talking Circles: A first nations based approach to recovery which works with the medicine wheel and elders daily meditations. We sit in a sacred circle where all are
equal no matter where they are at.
Wellbriety Step Groups: Focuses on Inter-generational trauma and why this is not the attendee's burden to bear. Only healing it is.
Women's Self Care Support Circles: An opportunity to develop Self Love and nurturing practices through creativity, connection, & vulnerable sharing in a safe supportive circle.
Men's Peaceful Warrior Circles: Where men go to talk about men’s stuff
- The Man cave of Healing through Vulnerability
Addiction is characterized by lack of connection.
This circle is not focused on recovery but on healing through connection.
These weekly circles serve to support men to be spiritual warriors.
Experiential exercises to dive deep into our inner working in a supportive therapeutic environment. Anger release, trauma re-enactments to make a new decision in a heightened emotional state that transforms our belief systems and our shifts the way our subconscious mind stores information.